Shorten Your Vocabulary

My working life has changed course a few times over the years. I was a proof reader, I worked in the book trade, I worked in Mental Health and am a Psychotherapist.
No, I’m not here to “shrink anyone’s brains” I thought I would share some aspects of being a therapist with you however. My type of therapy is Integrative – which is to say that I learned a number of disciplines which I use as a toolbox. I find this far more useful than being hamstrung by a single approach – as Abraham Maslow said “If we only have a hammer, we treat every problem as if it were a nail”.
Taking the philosophies behind the therapies into account produced a long term affect which I describe as being a therapist as opposed to doing therapy. Embodying therapy enables me to have the conviction that I am speaking from a viewpoint of familiarity, rather than advocating theoretical ideas. One of the disciplines is called Neuro Linguistic Programming, simply put, I examine the belief script that we grew up with in order to revise it, an effective reprogram performed jointly by therapist & client in open partnership.

I know this is effective because I use it effectively myself. For example, I recognise that many of the words we use are coded with failure & preprogram us to fail. Let’s examine the most common ones. I removed the word “try” from my vocabulary in most of its uses because we use the word diredtly to build in an ability to fail. When we offer to try to do something, we build in our later excuse and have not committed ourselves to a course of action. By removing the word, we find that we can no longer prevaricate. The answer to “will you?” can no longer be “I’ll try”, but commits us to “I will” or “I won’t”, or at very least “I will endeavour to do my best” The requirement to commit is obvious.
I also removed the word “worry”, as it seemed unneccessary and allowed my feelings to control me instead of me being in control of my feelings. You may find me expressing concern now, but will not ever see me worry. Thus I keep a clear head. Together with “worry” I removed the word “problem” Which seems so bound up with the worry word. If I deny myself problems, then I have circumstances or situations instead – either of which allows me a clearer head and a better grasp of solutions.
While we are in the territory I should also explain that I no longer live “Under the circumstances” simply because I refuse to allow my circumstances control over me. its far better to control my circumstances.
Try eradicating these words for a week – banish the words from your lips and the thoughts from your mind and see for yourselves the difference it can make. I will be fascinated to read your feedback after trying this, so I hope to hear from you in a week’s time with your observations in the comments section.
Until tomorrow…….!

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7 responses to “Shorten Your Vocabulary

  1. shakira

    I love this one!

  2. Lydia

    On a breathing course we did, we were asked to put an object down in front of us. Our teacher then said, “Try to pick it up.”

    Yup, we were stuck.

  3. Diane

    Excellent. I am really please with this and I intend to put this one to good use. Going on a trip with 4 grandhildren to DisneyWorld for a week during spring break, and so it seems to me to be an excellent time to put your theory to the test.
    Wish me luck and wonderful job with the blog. Keep up the good work.

  4. Angel of Death

    I like this alot! Integrative approach is my favourite also. You are making me miss Psychology a lot! If only I could get a job in it!!

    I also like the theory of changing vocabulary, I can imagine it would be quite effective, I’ll try it …I mean I will!! hehe

  5. ginatoaster

    I love this positivity in comments here and on Facebook and Twitter. Thank you – and Angel of Death, keep pushing. You are industrious, talented & very deserving of that job. Don’t give up!

  6. Tiggy

    I wish I could remove these words from my dictionary! I am the worlds biggest worry wart! How does one change something that has taken 31 years to perfect ?

    • ginatoaster

      With determination, we are never too old to change, and its never too late. Its like Neuro Linguistic Programming – Identify the part of the script you need to erase, write the new script, and whenever your thinking goes along the original lines, catch it and correct it. It can take a little time, but it works. For the worrying, try the TFT method I mention in the piece – “How Does it Work” Take care!

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